i just came across pastor iggi's brother's xanga, and i hope he doesn't mind me posting an excerpt from a recent entry of his. contrary to the simplicity and light tone they carry, i think his insights are quite englightening. (though at the same time i think they're kinda funny):

"Hmmm... the other day a friend asked me, 'So what's the best and worst thing about being married?' And for the life of me, I couldn't answer him. Too much to process. But so far it's good (obviously, I have to say that). Here though, is my really deep advice concerning marriage in the limited time I've experienced it: find someone you really like. Cuz believe it or not, marriage does not put you into an altered state of being. The bottom line is you're the same as you were before, except now you're living with this person that you're obligated to spend most of your non-working hours with. Yes, there's great joy in the spiritual union and blah, blah, blah, but it's too early right now to appreciate any of that stuff. So I say it again: find someone you really, really like being with. I really like CC. Seriously, make sure he/she is your best friend; that's not just a cliche. Oh, and find someone who's cute. Cuz the other really deep thing that I've learned is that you'll be looking at them a lot. I mean, A LOT."